It probably comes as no surprise that I am hardly the type
of girl who has a huge line of guys outside my front door just waiting to take
me out on a date. Even if there were, I probably wouldn’t even notice them due
to me not being able to turn my eyes away from the latest TV show I’m hooked
on.
But still.
Anyway, last summer there was a guy, like a real life guy who was actually interested me. Shocking,
I know. The problem was that this guy had NOTHING in common with me. In fact,
he was pretty much everything I didn’t like in a person. He made comments that
he thought were hilarious, but were actually quite offensive.
One time when we were talking, I told him I was dying my
hair. I’m not lying when I tell you that he actually said this to me:
“Why are you dying it? There is nothing wrong with your natural colour. Why do girls constantly change the way they look to impress guys?”
Of course, I wasn’t having any of that. Did it ever occur to
him that a girl might put make up on, change her hair and buy a new dress
BECAUSE SHE ACTUALLY WANTS TO DO IT FOR HERSELF? I had to spend half an hour of
my precious time on this earth telling him that I dye my hair because I bloody
well like it, not because I’m trying to capture a guy’s attention.
After a few more conversations like this, I figured that I
was not really going to be able to be friends with this guy. But then he went
and asked me on a date. And because I’m not exactly flooded with offers, I
actually felt obliged to say yes, simply because there was, for once, someone
interested in me.
After a completely miserable time on this date, I realised
how stupid I’d been. Just because he was the only member of the male species to
want to take me on a date, that didn't mean I actually had to go along with it.
This guy was rude, arrogant and generally just not the type of person I’d be
friends with. I was never myself around him, I couldn’t joke around with him,
yet I wasted time on him simply because he paid attention to me.
So important lesson there: don’t date a guy simply because
everyone else has one and you feel like you need one too. You’ll end up
miserable. A boyfriend shouldn't be something you feel you have to have with
you, like a handbag. It should be someone that you actually enjoy spending time
with.
I hope you enjoyed that little bit of relationship advice
from someone who knows nothing about relationships.
